By: Reese Williams
There’s nothing like a parent’s love for their child. Love keeps you up at night wondering about your kid’s safety if they’re out late. It’s what drives you to make them their favorite meal when they ask—and more often when they don’t. And love is how you end up at a noisy concert of some teen boy band as the parent chaperone.
It pushes us to do all these things and more for our children, so is it even a question of whether you should love your partner or your kids more?
Apparently, it is. And surprisingly, many people online agree that loving your partner more is better than loving your children. But why? Something about your spouse having priority over your kids sounds wrong initially, but when you really think about it, is it?
Even research shows us that children whose parents have a happy and loving relationship are happier and more secure than those raised by a dysfunctional couple. So, see? You’re doing your kids a favor by prioritizing your relationship with your partner over them.
Before your kids came along, it was just you and your spouse. And one day, it’ll just be you and your spouse again, so neglecting each other while you raise your kids won’t exactly make you happy empty-nesters in the end. Your kids are there to learn and grow under your roof until it’s time for them to leave. So, don’t you think the one person who’s left standing through it all deserves some extra love?
Of course, we know that love can’t truly be measured, and you’ll never stop loving your child any less. But maybe this is your wake-up call to start prioritizing that one person you actually choose for yourself to commit to so that you’ll still be there for each other when parenting isn’t your primary role.
Raising a child is one of life’s greatest joys, especially when you get to do it with the one you love. But while you do that, just remember to make time to show each other love, too!